Yes. Respect.

I had an interesting encounter last night. Someone made it pretty clear that they were quite attracted to me. That's nice isn't it? He got my interest and we conversed for about 20 minutes...

What's the problem? Not one.

However, I'm proud of myself. For standing my ground. This man was very persuasive and on a different day, I might bite. Timing is what stood out loud to me during my interaction with him.

I'm just beginning to truly understand my place as a single woman. One who does imagine marriage. The fantasy that I'll live "happily ever after" with my destined life partner has just resurfaced within me. I almost lost hope. Raising two children alone has made me tougher than I was as a tomboy in my youth and I did become bitter.

It's easy to convince myself that I've been doing it -this long on my own, why take a chance with someone now? That's fear talking, right? It is.

So, as I grow into this superwoman-type of lady that I've been visualizing since I was a little girl, I've got to let some things go. Things being; hang-ups, issues from my past, and being too anxious.

That is... if I want the life and companionship that I'm destined for. Remember I mentioned timing?

We've ALL got to be more patient with time. We try to run it, but it really runs us.


It just seems to me, that most people are in a hurry most of the time (myself included). I'm trying to change this and be more relaxed with how life flows. I could've went to have an early breakfast or late night bite with him, but that seemed too convenient and too easy. For both of us.

LADIES: Please go to the following link to see just how "lucky" we are (laughing out loud)! No joke.

Black Women Who Want to be Loved

I've come to the conclusion that we (women) make it too easy to become infatuated with these men. Only they can decide on the right bride. I'm just completely over being the wrong broad. Boys you want some? Not sex. Real love. Then earn yours! Period. Not by "sugar-daddy" tactics, but by actions that real men with substance enjoy exercising.

I don't know who the quote belongs to, but "anything worth having and keeping is worth fighting for." That means us too, ladies. I think over time, we've gotten it all twisted. We've been wrongly fighting each other to keep a man for way too long now. Aren't you tired?

I need to know that my man wants ME. I won't have to ask him if he does. He'll show me, but I'll have to be patient in the meanwhile. I don't know how it'll happen or when. I just believe that it will.

The games have been fun. Playing house and all. It's really time that I look out for me. I am a caretaker. I'm a nurturer. I am a mother. I am a woman filling my own voids. I welcome interest, but I'm more curious about the man who'll keep my attention. Naturally...

These 30s are getting real fun! I'm realizing my options and understanding how FAITH works. My prayer is in the air. GODs air! I only need to prepare accordingly as the time ticks. So glad to be breathing in the meanwhile and of course, there are so many things that "I can" do as I wait...

Despair Dumped.

Network. It's Necessary!

"If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people" ~Virginia Woolf

We all know the cliché "it's not what you know, but who you know." Many of us have experienced what it means to "know the right person" or "knowing the right people." On some level at some point in our lives, we'll also (more than likely) agree that it feels great knowing the right people. It feels even better when the right person makes that connection with you (whatever it is).


This morning I was thinking about my network of friends. Yes, this would be my "inner circle." These are the people who know me well and who also accept me for who I am regardless of their personal opinions about my life. I trust them all, but with different things. They know exactly "what" they can come to me for and how reliable I am in certain areas.


My network of friends know their places in my life. We are all champions within our own rights and each of us respects the lanes that we each compete in. "Knowledge IS power" because when you know, you have the power to use what you're aware of when a decision has to be made.


Often an opportunity passes us by simply because we don't know or realize the opportunity at hand. We have to be honest with ourselves about EVERYTHING. Full acceptance of self including, my past, my present and my future, is helping me to shamelessly interact with others truthfully. 


It is what it is. I know what I know. I do what I do. I don't what I don't. I function best as I am! 
#1 Question: How may I help you? 


I'm so glad to have people in my life who I know well. I feel so supported when I reach out to them for various reasons. Our human nature is to feel needed in some way or another and when we acknowledge this, it's so humbling helping others. It is Thanksgiving month and we'll all be networking to help those in need.


Cherish the people within your network. Build. Extend Opportunities! Live. 

Focus Inward. Try You!

My mind is all over the place today actually. I have so many things that I can write about today, but I want narrow to my topic. A lot of what's circling within my thoughts has to do with my present unemployment status.

Allow me to "keep it real" and say that no, I don't want a job. Sorry to disappoint you if you're waiting to see that I'm looking for a career. The whole "be whatever you want" when you grow up is the song I'm singing, but I'm off key...

I will not beat myself up about the missed goal with staying at my previous occupation for at least 1-year. I knew during the interview that it would be a testy situation and boy was I tested. Three and three-fourths of a month isn't bad. Although, my attitude still isn't where I'd like it to be during stressful times.

I get mad fairly quickly and over the years I've tried different things to prevent this or to discover what triggers my anger. Now, I have grown. I'm not as quick to tell someone off. Even slower at letting a situation escalate into something that can lead to unpleasant consequences. I've learned to stay away from the unnecessary drama period!

But my last job, I arrived at work to meet drama. Almost on a daily basis. I could barely concentrate on my workload and I dreaded going to work not long after accepting the position. It was a great opportunity, but obviously not for me.

Being exposed to the behind the scene details with operating a thriving small business taught me something very valuable. Hard work pays off. Who reaps the real benefits when you're working for someone? I began to ponder on this thought after every payday.

Since I'm no longer working for anyone other than myself (raising my children & surviving), I can now explore some other options like starting my own business. What kind of business though? That's what I'm having trouble with. I have many skills and some talents that I keep hidden.

My sitting time has run short. It's make or break time FOR REAL. Either I'll just settle and get another job or I'll stop playing in my adulthood and bet on myself. GOD has me and I KNOW this. I've got the ball and it's my time to roll.

Be Responsible. It Helps.

It's funny that my focus today is about responsibility when I ran out of gas last night...

I didn't plan on getting out last night, but I did once again and I don't regret a thing! My gas light had been on earlier in the day and I knew that I had just enough in the tank to wait until morning. Now when I decided to go out I was in a hurry (as usual) and so excited to get to the destination that I completly disregarded taking care of business beforehand.

Thank GOD that I persuaded my GODsister to come out with me at the last minute. I almost went solo, but something kept telling me not to go it alone. So glad that I listened. As long as I waited for her to get ready, I could've gotten the gas in the meantime.

Okay, I'm guilty. I've run out of gas with every vehicle I've owned. Each time, I had money on me to purchase gas. I push beyond the limit with my pursuit of "not being so late," that I've ended up being even later or stuck in the middle of traffic with a dead car afterwards. You'd think I would've learned my lesson by now...

Well, I have (kind of). I have learned some valuable lessons from this experience. I'll never own and drive a vehicle without AAA roadside coverage. I consider beforehand how I'll get help if I do run out of gas, which keeps me from panicking when it happens. When I'm out late at night, if the gas is low I usually don't travel a far enough distance to be concerned with it.

Fortunately, I listened to that little voice instructing me to bring my GODsister out with me. I just might've made the same decision to just get there and worry about it later. This is a pattern that I have to monitor carefully in my life. Yes, procrastination is what we call this. Why do it?

I ask myself this all the time. I am improving in many areas, but in the area of safety and simple common sense I need some fine tuning. The only reason that I'm not embarrassed by my actions is because I knew subconsciously that it was highly likely to happen. I felt prepared enough to handle the circumstance.

Am I really giving myself credit for this? Self-check. 

What a day! Yesterday.

Oh, how I'm mentally marinating in such a blissful space in time at this very moment!

I feel like a kid with a cute crush. I believe I'm falling in love... again, again, and again! With life. I'm loving so many moments that I'm able to feel GODs presence within and there's an abundance of them continuously occurring.

Was it just yesterday that I realized this? Not really. Simply reminded! On yesterday I spoke with my neighbor, my cousin, my aunt, my homegirl (whom I haven't seen in over 10-years), and my playbrother. I saw them all in person individually at different locations. There is NOTHING like real-live time spent with the people you care about. Seems like it's never long enough when... it's all good.

Random 1on1 time with the people I enjoy just doesn't happen often enough because everybody is so busy. If only we could accumulate these brief moments led by a spiritual interest, we'd all save so much more than time and money! I'm honestly becoming more aware of how much I really do value what love is without feeling the need to wonder why... ;)

It's a tired Thursday, but I'll get through it because I can breathe. THANK GOD!!!

Acquaint Yourself. Be Nice.

Last night, my GODsister and I went out on the town again following laughs. Literally. We went to see "Screw the Rules Comedy Show" at Buffalo Wildbills. Can I just say that we absolutely love our new found friendly comedians/comediennes?! Yes, I said it.

It feels like we've known them for a while now, and we just became acquainted less than one month ago. Yes, I'm correct. Less than one month ago. Our first comedy spectating adventure happened on Oct. 5th. Time really does go by quickly when you're enjoying yourself.

How many times have you chosen to be nonsocial?

I'm a sourpuss more than I care to admit, but I'm also very friendly when I want to be.

What makes me want to be friendly? Usually, pure vibe. Sometimes, I just feel the need to go the extra mile with being kind (it's the GOD in me). Others, the interaction might be beneficial for both or either party somehow.

We made it to the show on time! My time management is under construction. The place was crowded and at first glance, it appeared that there wasn't anywhere to sit. I had just said to my GODsister (before we walked in) that I didn't want for us to have to stand and that we should be cool because we were on time (5+ minutes early).

When we walked through the bar area looking for a seat there were people sitting at every table. I thought to myself "we need to make friends with someone." We passed by a woman at a table alone and I just know she felt my vibe. I got the impression that she was happy all on her own. No warmth or inviting energy there.

Two tables down I noticed a nice looking man at a table alone and I approached him. I asked were the 2 stools beside him available and he answered yes. I could tell immediately that he was a cool guy and I asked if we could join him at his table. He welcomed us.

After introducing ourselves we conversed for a couple of hours and warmed up some laughs of our own before the show even started. I don't think any of us predicted this moment for the night. He even offered us drinks. Wasn't that extra special and nice? I'll say.

From the wrong perspective, one might think... "the nerve" and say that we invaded his space, but who's talking about anything wrong here? I'm not. The night was ALL right!

Thank you for your companionship and being so nice Cecil! So very nice to meet you. :)

Without? Not So.

I almost forgot to blog today. Can you believe that? :)

This has become so important to me. Blogging that is. I can feel the release taking place within me. I've been lighter on my feet and filled with so many more pleasant thoughts. Yes! Yes! This is exactly what I've been missing...

I think more about what I will, what I want, and how I'll pursue my dreams these days. Not so long ago, I forced myself to remove the pessimistic outlook that I was carrying about my future. Particularly, concerning relationships. It had gotten quite difficult for me to imagine sharing an intimate relationship that could lead to a life-long union with the right person. This department is still being renovated...

Because I'm not blogging from my personal computer today, I almost allowed myself to put it off until later. I don't have access to my picture library where I've been uploading the images from that accompany my blog. As I thought about it, (briefly) I realized that there's no need to opt-out of writing the blog due to a missing image for today (smiling). How dare I even consider breaking from my new (most pleasing) agenda because of?

So there will be no image attached to this blog today.

What means more to me is that I just get it done and I mean this enthusiastically! The personal development taking place as I write is something that I'm simply becoming more passionate about. I am improving in the area of consistency and I like it!

I have everything that I need right here and now to achieve what's important to me...